Friday, 7 June 2013

Passion


Only you showed passion in your work and career ,
that it become your hobby.
Then you will be excel in whatever you do.
If your initial motive and subsequent motivation is WRONG...
you will feel emptiness...
For example...
if you work for MONEY...
Like you will feel even more and more empty despite million and billion that you earn...
But, 
if you do your work with passion....
with love...
with care...
You will love it...
and money will come to you!
Enjoy the process! Not the outcome! 
as long as the attitude is correct.
The outcome won't be far away!


Some Sharing by Some One....

Once you start, how do you ensure you finish?

After talking about starting last week, I noticed an interesting trend. I heard a lot of you respond in a similar way: “I don’t start because I’m afraid I’ll lose momentum. I might not finish.”
Sure, nothing is more important than starting.
But once you start, the most import thing quickly becomes “how do we set ourselves up so we can actually finish and succeed?”

The problem is most of us have really screwed up expectations.

We write a book and think it will be an instant bestseller.
We start a blog and think it’ll become the next Zen Habits within the year.
We launch a product and think the world will buy it.
We go on a diet and think we’ll lose 50 lbs right off the bat.
We expect ridiculous outcomes (often in record time) and when we don’t get them, we lose momentum. We give up. We quit.
Believe me, when it comes to misaligned expectations, I’ve been as guilty as any.
But I’ve learned (and continue to learn).
So today I want to share a simple process that has been proven over decades and generations to get real lasting results. A process for successfully finishing what you start.
It starts with a story from Warren Buffett and Mark Zuckerberg…

Every ten years or so the finance world thinks Warren Buffett is an idiot.

It’s usually at a time when some new technology or investment vehicle is dominating news headlines, at the same time that his company, Berkshire Hathaway’s stock market returns are getting beaten by the averages. News stories start popping up everywhere talking about how “he’s lost his edge” or “how the new world is too sophisticated for his old school style.”
Buffett’s response is always the same. It might sound something like “We don’t get caught up in what’s new, shiny or different. We just stick to what’s worked.”
This happened most recently around 2000, during the tech boom. In July of 1999 Buffett took the stage in Sun Valley, Idaho to give the anchor keynote at the Allen & Company conference – arguably the most prestigious business leaders’ summit of the year.
But this year was different than others. The crowd was filled with dozens of overnight tech multimillionaires – most of which were still trying to figure out how the hell they got where they did so damn fast.
Hence, the most successful investor of the past century found himself giving a talk to a crowd that had possibly the most misaligned set of expectations of our lifetime.
His topic was pretty simple (as they typically are): The recent performance of the stock market, and the wildly-high valuations these new tech companies were being given, simply could not last.
Not exactly the message the audience was eagerly awaiting.
When he finished his talk, the newly minted experts brushed it off once again as “the old guy missed the tech boom…Sure, he was the most successful investor of our time, but whatever… This time it’s different.”
Then they flew back to Silicon Valley in their private jets.

Within about a year, the bottom fell out of the market. And most of these people went broke. 

Most the world was seduced by the money being made hand over fist. Most the world didn’t stop to think if it actually made sense.
But for Buffett, it didn’t fit into his process. It didn’t match his checklist. So he passed.
Despite how poor his investing outcome of the past few years had been (especially compared to most tech stocks of the time), he stayed true to his process. Because he knew that a proven process, executed properly, over time produces results. For him, there was no other measure.
Imagine the type of conviction that takes…
For the full story, check out the second chapter of Snowball – amazing few pages!
Then we have Mark.

Mark Zuckerberg’s Process for Changing the World (and handling tough IPO’s)

A couple days after the Facebook IPO earlier this year, a good CEO friend of mine forwarded me an email that Mark Zuckerberg sent to every Facebook employee the night before their company when public. Here’s a short excerpt (I pieced a few different quotes together):
“We don’t build services in order to make money…we make money in order to build better services… Facebook was not originally created to be a company. It was built to accomplish a social mission–to make the world open and more connected.
“By focusing on our mission and building great services, we believe we will create the most value for our shareholders and partners over the long term.” – Mark Zuckerberg
The gist of his message was simple: We built Facebook to help people, to connect them in new ways. We built it because we loved doing it. We did not build it to become rich. We did not build it to go public.
He reinforced their reason Why. He knew he had no control over what would happen the next morning, the moment their stock started trading on the open market. No one could control that.
But what they could control is staying true to their purpose, regardless of the uncontrollable outcomes they experience along the way.
The fact that the Facebook IPO was one of the worst performing IPO’s of the past ten years, is not Mark’s fault. It’s not Facebook’s fault. If anyone’s at fault, it’s the public for giving them such a rosy valuation.
But none of that is the point.
While I don’t know Mark personally, something tells me that there are things a lot more important to him than what the stock did in the first day, week or year of trading.
Mark cares about changing the world. He cares about executing on a process to further that mission. There is no one who can take that from him. IPO boom or IPO bust, he and his team will keep doing what they believe is consistent with making us all more connected – with making the world better.
Every single day Mark and his team build on that goal – no matter what the outside world says or does. That is what they control. And that is how they measure success.
You can read Mark Zuckerberg’s full letter here – fantastic read!

Do you measure by outcome or process?

This is the one questions that separates world-changers from the average.
Building things can be frustrating. Doing things that truly excite you can be discouraging.
It’s scary, takes massive creativity and when you get started you often feel incredibly far behind. Not to mention, most people try to convince you you’re an idiot.
This leaves us with two ways to operate:
  1. You can either measure yourself by the short-term results you get (and the reactions of others),
  2. Or you can figure out what actions typically lead to the long-term results you want.
You can either focus on the process or the outcome.
Most the world focuses on outcome.
Most the world gets frustrated and gives up as a result.
The key is to focus on the process that is most likely to lead to the outcome you want.
“We enjoy the process far more than the proceeds.”
- Warren Buffett

process over outcome

Most things are out of our control.

That’s a fact. So it’s on us to control the few things we can.
We cannot totally control losing 50 pounds in a year – but we can decide how we eat and exercise. We can choose to run that mile every day. Sooner or later, the weight will be gone.
We cannot control meeting the man or woman of our dreams. But we can decide to go on five dates a week.
We can’t directly control landing our dream job, but you can dedicate yourself to the self-discovery, the searching, and connecting with the right people who will likely lead you to doing work you love.
We cannot control how many products we sell in a month - but we can control our marketing message, how we treat customers and how many sales calls we make.
Last year I had no idea how to launch a product, so I asked people who had successfully done it. Then I followed their step-by-step advice, exactly, in launching How to Live Off Your Passion. The eventual results spoke for themselves. I then wrote them up in the $31k Product Launch Checklist to share with all you (btw, if you find a process that works, please share it :)).
At our investment fund we cannot control, nor predict, what the stock market will do on a daily, monthly or yearly basis – but we can control how we go about choosing the investments and keeping to a process that’s gotten results for the past 100 years.
One of the biggest causes for failure in the investment world is what’s often called “chasing returns” – altering your strategy (or “pivoting” as some like to say) to better fit today’s headlines – exactly what Buffett refused to do in 2000. We built our investment process and checklists based upon the most successful value investors of the past 100 years – Benjamin Graham and Warren Buffett, in conjunction with our team of advisors, to be sure we had confidence in a process.
You cannot control how many new subscribers you get in a month – but you can decide to show up and write your very best and most useful content for your readers. And you can decide to write 10 guest articles for other sites.
When I discovered the process that was most consistent with growing a blog (which was writing insanely useful content for this site and others), I wrote over 20 guest posts in a matter of a few months. That was my measure of success. I also have built a habit of writing 500+ words every day no matter what. I can’t control much else. But stringing sentences together – that’s all on me.

Redefine frustration – then welcome it

The problem is you may write those first five or 10 articles, and not see any results. You may invest in the investments exactly according to a proven strategy, and they may go through the floor next week. You may switch from red meat and fried foods to all veggies, and gain weight in the first two weeks.
In fact you probably will.
Making a transition is never easy.
Going against the tide is unbelievably challenging.
You get tested in more ways than you can imagine.

Most any meaningful long-term outcome requires some type of seeminglyshort-term sacrifice.

But it’s only a sacrifice if you measure yourself on an outward level. Mr. Buffett often talks about his “internal yardstick”. That’s how he measures his success. Not on shallow headlines and pundits’ opinions, but on how well he has stayed true to what he believes is right. That’s how he kept himself from investing in the Yahoo’s of 1999.
When process is your measure, every action consistent with that process is a success. 
Don’t get on a scale every morning. Just start running.
Don’t check the stock market every second. Just do your research.
Don’t check your sales non-stop. Just create valuable things and communicate that to your customers.
Don’t refresh your subscriber and web stats every couple hours (as I used to do). Just do the work you know people need your help with.
What’s the good that can come from it anyway?

One of two things could happen:

1. Your stats are super high, which excites you, but also immediately causes you to either get a little lazy or raise your expectations to unrealistic levels. You also might attribute this short-term success to something you’re doing, when it could be due to something that has nothing to do with your actions.
or
2. Your stats are lower than expected, which kills your drive and inspiration. You stop creating. You give up. You think you’re failing – then you actually do.
Neither of which helps your situation.
We must stop measuring ourselves by the things we cannot control.
the right process ensures results

3 Steps for Creating a Process that Ensures a Successful Finish

1. Identify your long term goal and be sure it has a “Reason Why” that actually means something to you.

Making money is not an adequate reason. That’s a result. For a refresher, look back at Simon Sinek’s Start with Why work. With the right Why, you can handle most any outward objection. This is what Zuckerberg put across so strongly in his pre-IPO letter.

2. Find a simple process that has been proven to consistently get your desired long-term results.

This is why Live Your Legend puts such a huge focus on surrounding yourself with passionate people and finding the right models. Go out and find someone who has done what you want to do (or something similar). Deconstruct what they did and how they did it. Create a process based on what you learn. For a refresher, reread On Modeling the Impossible and How to Do Anything.
*Very important: You must have complete confidence that the process will yield results over time. If you don’t fully believe in it then you’ll give up at the most crucial times (i.e. sell your best stocks when the market crashes, or stop writing when visitors don’t come beating down your homepage in the first couple months of launch).
The best place to find this confidence is from people who have crushed it in the past. Our investment process came from Mr. Buffett’s work. We believe in it 110%. Having a bad quarter does not change our thinking, as long as we stayed true to the process. And I learned the importance of creating content and guest posting from Leo Babauta and Corbett Barr (and a few others). Then I worked my ass off to do the same. I deeply believe that over time, that’s the work that pays off – no matter how the “numbers” look on any given week.
Commit to a simple process you believe in. Hint: usually it’s the simple ones that actually work.

3. Execute and measure success by what you can control.

Measure every day and every action based on how well you stayed true to the process you believe in. Work your ass off to execute. Surround yourself with people who believe the same – customers and employees alike. Congratulate yourself every time you do something you know is consistent with your long-term vision. I mean every single time. I still put a note of recognition on my calendar every time I publish a blog post.
No matter how big or small the victory, celebrate them all.

Dedication to a process is what moves mountains.

If you have the confidence that your process will yield results, then how well you stick to it is the only thing that should matter or motivate.
Chase the outcome and you’ll either quit early or start acting in a way that will lead to failure.
People will tell you you’re wrong. Let them talk.
If you believe it what you’re doing, you won’t hear them anyway.
Measure what you can control. Embrace the process. The rest will follow.
Once you start, that is the only way to finish.
-Scott
For the comments: What is your process? What steps do you whole-heartedly believe will lead to results over time? Share them with us. If you don’t have a process yet, get one. Tell us one thing you’ll do today to start establishing that process.

Live San Francisco LYL meetup – 12 spots left

Just a little reminder – as of this morning there were only 12 spots left for our first ever live event in San Francisco. You can grab your free ticket here if you haven’t. I cannot wait to get so many of us in the same place at once – after all, that’s when the real magic starts to happen! Less than two weeks to go. We have some fun things in store. I’ll update the attendees soon…

Sunday, 26 May 2013

Deep Listening...

Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart. Even if he says things that are full of wrong perceptions, full of bitterness, you are still capable of continuing to listen with compassion. Because you know that listening like that, you give that person a chance to suffer less. If you want to help him to correct his perception, you wait for another time. For now, you don’t interrupt. You don’t argue. If you do, he loses his chance. You just listen with compassion and help him to suffer less. One hour like that can bring transformation and healing.


Tuesday, 21 May 2013

Are you seeking for Love? It is around you....



看到十三条我也哭了 请仔细看完,

记住,物质,地位,名誉就算失去,还能从头再来,但家人呢……珍惜!
……如果这就是爱……

1。姥爷去世了。妈妈平静地处理完后事,晚上回来她栽倒在床上抽泣道:“女儿,你知道吗,妈妈没有爸爸了……”我顿时心酸至极。
2。出国一年,回来时妈妈已患上老年痴呆,迷迷糊糊,不认人。我走到床边看她时,她竟忽然冲我笑了,说:“你胖了。”

3。今天坐火车,两个老婆婆坐在我身边,其中一个是来送另一个的,两人双手拉在一起不停念叨着。要发车了,一个老婆婆下车,回头说了句话-“姐啊,今年我89岁,你90岁,这是我们这辈子最后一次见面了……”

4。小区里有个小朋友刚出生不久妈妈就去世了,一直都是奶奶带着。有一次小朋友对她奶奶说:“我偷偷叫你一声妈妈可以吗?”

5。家里买了一台大电视,我想放客厅,可老妈想放他们卧室,一直争执不下,最后还是老妈妥协了。很多年过去了,有天老妈发信息:电视放我和你爸卧室其实是想让你能来我们屋看,这样可以多陪陪我们……当即释怀,忍不住大哭。

6。我问老公:“如果是我得了绝症,你会给我治吗?”老公快睡着了,迷迷糊糊说:“别瞎说……倾家荡产也得治!”我说:“如果你得了呢?”老公:“那就不治了。剩下你一个人,挣钱不容易。”

7。那是一次“意外”,我拿老公的手机玩,无意间看到一条短信,那是爸爸去世前和我老公见面没多久后发的-“今天我把我的宝贝交给你了,拜托你一定要好好照顾她,我到天堂都会感激祝福你的。”几年来,一想到这件事不知哭晕多少次。

8。在外第一个春节坐火车回家带了一瓶绿茶,妈妈说:“我从来没有喝过这个东西,真好喝。”

9。爸妈离婚后我跟了老妈。等老爸有了自己另一个家,另一个女儿,我就觉得自己是多余的,即使再难也绝对不给老爸添麻烦。后来有件事还是得要他帮忙,然后事成了,于是发短信给爸爸说谢谢,短信上打出“谢谢”两字时,我心里痛得跟抽筋一样。过了很久,爸才回复我,只有两字:傻瓜!

10。爷爷拉着我说:“我很好,别担心,你自己在外面注意身体,多吃点好吃的……” 明明在饭桌上,我只看到一小盘咸菜孤独的摆着,眼前顿时模糊一片,那天是他 80 岁 的生日啊~~~

11。爸爸一次重病,在床上躺了大半个月都没醒,后来在一个下午突然醒了。
  醒来时他嘴一直在动,妈妈把耳朵凑近了对他说:“你慢点说,我听着呢。”
  爸很虚弱地说:“女儿该放学回家了,你去把饭做了吧

12。高三那年,外婆问我想考哪里
  我说当然是北京
  外婆说就考本地嘛 离得近
  我就笑着哈拉过去
  高考前一个月,外婆去世了,选择都没留给我
  外婆去世第二天,家里上上下下忙着张罗各种事
  大人都在楼下搭着的灵堂忙
  我到楼上找外公
  外公一个人坐在藤椅上
  看到我来了,强挤出笑脸说:“孙女,怎么办哟,以后咱家订的牛奶也没人喝了?”
  我背过身去大哭

13。大年三十晚上,因为在外地加班不能回家过年,虽然爸爸知道我不回去
  但他还是一个人冒着刺骨寒风到人烟稀少的小车站一直一直的等,妈妈叫他回来
  可爸却说:“万一她是骗我们的呢,万一她晚上就回来了呢。”
  后来听到妈妈给我说这件事的时候,我心里面就像被锤子狠狠的砸着那么难受。

14。大学后的第一个寒假,妈开始学习发短信。我是个没耐性的人,本来几句话的东西,却嫌她手脚太笨,便没耐心教下去了。晚饭后,妈和老爸在房间里看电视,我在练听力,那时候还用复读机,恍惚间感觉有东西干扰,手机进条短信,只有5个字,妈妈问:儿,你在干嘛?

15。小时候爸爸喂我药,我呛到了,妈妈就把他骂出去了。后来妈妈问姐姐爸爸哪去了,姐姐说爸爸在外面哭。

亲情,朴素的让人会忽略,但是却最能感动所有人,朋友我们有时间多多陪伴一下自己的亲人!


~~后语~~
随着自己愈长大,看着父母亲脸庞从年轻变憔悴,头发从乌丝变白发,动作从迅捷变缓慢,多心疼!
父母亲总是将最好、最宝贵的留给我们,像蜡烛不停的燃烧自己,照亮孩子!而我们呢?有没有腾出一个空间给我的父母,或者只是在当我需要停泊岸时,才会想起他们……

其实父母亲要的真的不多,只是一句随意的问候「爸、妈,你们今天好吗?」随意买的宵夜,煮一顿再普通不过的晚餐,睡前帮他们盖盖被子,天冷帮他们添衣服、戴手套....都能让他们高兴温馨很久。有时,我常在想:我希望我的子女以后如何对我。那现在,我有没有如此对待我的父母?我相信,人是环环相扣的;现在,你如何对待你的父母;以后,你的子女就如何待你。

朋友,人世间最难报的就是父母恩,愿我们都能:以反哺之心奉敬父母,以感恩之心孝顺父母!

生命不要求我们成为最好的,只要求我们作最大的努力!


养老院墙上发现的一篇文章:

孩子!当你还很小的时候,我花了很多时间,教你慢慢用汤匙、用筷子吃东西。教你系鞋带、扣扣子、溜滑梯、教你穿衣服、梳头发、拧鼻涕。这些和你在一起的点点滴滴,是多么的令我怀念不已。所以,当我想不起来,接不上话时,请给我一点时间,等我一下,让我再想一想……极可能最后连要说什么,我也一并忘记。

孩子!你忘记我们练习了好几百回,才学会的第一首娃娃歌吗?是否还记得每天总要我绞尽脑汁,去回答不知道你从哪里冒出来的问题吗?所以,当我重复又重复说着老掉牙的故事,哼着我孩提时代的儿歌时,体谅我。让我继续沉醉在这些回忆中吧!切望你,也能陪着我闲话家常吧!

孩子,现在我常忘了扣扣子、系鞋带。吃饭时,会弄脏衣服,梳头发时手还会不停的抖,不要催促我,要对我多一点耐心和温柔,只要有你在一起,就会有很多的温暖涌上心头。

孩子!如今,我的脚站也站不稳,走也走不动。所以,请你紧紧的握着我的手,陪着我,慢慢的。就像当年一样,我带着你一步一步地走

朋友,如果你觉得好就转发,让更多的人更加珍惜自己的父母。百善孝为先,尽孝须及时!

Sunday, 19 May 2013

How To Calm A Baby! It Works!



1. Swaddling
2. Side/ Stomach position
3. Shushing
4.Swing movement
5. Sucking

take a look at the video below!
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10151400888334100

Saturday, 4 May 2013

Joy


Joy...
Is a noun...
Is something you can feel...
When is the last time you feel joyful?
Don't forget ...
each moment of life...
is precious...
Don't let it slip past you...

Enjoy the every Moment of Now...



Taken In Miri, 2013

Sunday, 28 April 2013

Farewell



Another farewell to my colleague, Jee Rou Chen.
He brought me around when I reach here in Miri.
He brings me around for food hunting.
Almost having every weekend Savouring good food in Lau Yang Dim Sum...
He is a great man!
with good soul...
doing Housekeeping for Medical department...
He shows guidance to us especially with his neurology knowledge...
Not to forget his great knowledge in Chinese Arts...Feng Sui... Mian Xiang Xue...etc
He is good in everything :)
Great loss to Miri...
Hope his path ahead...
Bright & smooth!

Thanks to Jee!
for everything he does!